Why Do We Need to Accept Change?

Five (5) Good Reasons to Accept Change and Be Happy

"Everyone wants to change, but change demands desire and discipline before it becomes delightful. There is always the agony of choice before the promise of change." ~ Larry Lea

  • We want to maintain our smile and happiness.
  • We want to manage stress to live a happy life.
  • Change is permanent. Change "changes".
  • Acceptance is key.
  • We must stay positive - whether we want to remain single or marry in the near future.

It is a common belief that an old bachelor/bachelorette is either lonely, ill-tempered or grumpy. Why? I believe it has something to do with acceptance or non-acceptance of change in our lives.  But is it the singles alone?

We associate these not-so-good attitudes to "poor singles". There may be reasons for this phenomenon. But I noticed that it boils down to the acceptance of change we experience. That being said, the "labels" are no longer a monopoly of singles as it may also apply to any person - married or not. 
I gathered these gems of truth and it continues to help me. I hope that it will also help many singles out there. I hope it will help you. 

If you have something to add, feel free to express it in the comment area.

  • There are many changes in life that people go through. And we, singles are not exempted. We worry about our waistline, unwanted fats and effects of aging, job issues or retrenchment to death in the family or friend. From simple to complicated issues and concern, name it. We worry about it. Does it help? Yes, some times but not all the time. The more we worry of our wrinkles, the more it comes out. WORRY LESS. 
  • That change triggers different emotions and thoughts. It could be frightening/harrowing. It could be fun and exciting. It could be risky/dangerous. Or it is just the needed help so we can cope up and save our sanity. Emotions and thoughts affects us. It could make us BETTER or it could make us BITTER. Choose better.
  • That change is real. It happens. Even Mother Earth changes from time to time. (We don't need to go through evolution, earthquake, climate change, and so on, do we?). Some of our experiences are hard to deal with. But if it's inevitable, our choice is to cope up.
  • That acceptance is a key to opportunities that will lead to our happiness and success. I remember the movie "Up in the Air" with George Clooney as the lead actor. He was hired to "fire" unwanted employees. One time he was convincing an employee to accept the sudden change in his career life. He was almost of retiring age but the company he was working for fired him anyway. Of course, the employee was shocked and angry. I cannot forget George Clooney's response. The thought-provoking line he told the guy was like "lots of known big time businessman go through this [change] and then build their empire". 
  • That although we can't control things around us, changing our perception help us to cope up. In turn, it helps us avoid a stress that may cause our uneasiness or serious sickness. I remember the stress management seminar I attended in July 2013. The psychologist resource speaker shared one big reason why we are stressed. After a short assessment of our stress level, that one reason came up. She said, others are more stressed because they (the more stressed) keep fighting for the impossible. They know what they fight for is not achievable but they still fight for it. Further, she said that the best way to do is to change our mindset to avoid stress.

I would like to share these two beautiful quotes from BrainyQuote.com. I hope these motivates you more.

"Change is the law of life. And those who look only to the past or present are certain to miss the future." 
- John F. Kennedy

"I can't change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination." - Jimmy Dean

I know some singles that are happy people. They have gone through a lot but they accepted changes in their lives. I believe we must too if we want happiness. They are no superman and wonder woman. But they adjusted their sails to be happy in their single life.   
With faith and prayer in God, trust and love of our family and able support of our friends, we will be able to accept change and be happy in the end. We will not be grumpy - single or married. We will be positive persons. 


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